That is a terrible situation but given the large discrepancy in income you should be able to get an attorney and have her pay for it. Likewise you supported her for years while she pursued school and a better job and now that she divorces you as that comes to fruition YOU may actually be eligible for alimony from her. I know it seems bleak now but you have a lot of good cards in your deck and right attorney should be able to help you immensely. I wish you the best of luck in this matter.
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I am terribly sorry you are faced with this problem. It sounds like you need the guidance of an experiance local family law attorney as there a number of possible serious issues regarding division of assets, alimony, child support and custody. The best advice I can provide you right now is to contact a local family law attorney, meet with them and tackle each one of these issues. I wish you all the best.
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