I hate to be rude, but do you somehow believe that the answer will change the more times you ask the same question? People are incredible. Even if you tell them the right answer, they ask person after person the same question until someone gives them the answer they want to hear -- no matter how wrong the answer. After all, it was the answer they wanted to hear.
Regardless of the fact that wife made a decision to violate a court order based upon a consultation with experts (I assume the experts did not advise her to violate a court order), she violated a court order (CONTEMPT OF COURT). I think that under the circumstances, the Judge's decision was appropriate. Wife is lucky that the court did not also fine her and place her in jail for such behavior.
I certainly do not agree with every judicial decision. However, you should have filed a Motion for Reconsideration (if circumstances permitted) or an appeal of that ruling (if appropriate). Instead, you violated a court order.
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A Judge can have the clerk of the court sign on behalf of a party who is not cooperating with Court Orders, which sounds like what happened in this situation. Judges are in the business of finalizing divorces, and they typically don't take kindly to people who continuously delay the resolution of their case. It's not a matter of requiring findings that a person violated orders to the detriment of the community. It only matters that a person violated court orders.
I'm very sorry that you're in this predicament, but perhaps the best advice I can give you is to follow future Court Orders and vacate the house as soon as possible. I understand that you did not agree with the Judge's orders, but disobeying them is not in your best interests. Hiring your own attorney will help you understand future Court Orders and help you through the rest of this process.