If your spouse did not file a response to your summons and petition, you can request the court enter a default in the case. You must then prepare a judgment setting forth custody, support and the division of assets including your pensions. Most courts have family law facilitator's offices to assist litigants in the process. Consider visiting the facilitator's office where you filed. I have provided a link with additional information below.
You have to submit a Judgment for Dissolution package that includes provisions for custody, child support, and division of community property assets and obligations at a minimum. You need to do one of two things: pay the lawyer to whom you've been talking to prepare the final documents, or go to the self-help center..
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