When I found out I was pregnant, the "Sperm Donor" as I call him went into a downward spiral. At 6 months pregnant and on bedrest I was contacted by an 18 yr old who too was pregnant with his child. At 8 months I discovered a 17 yr old was also expecting. Neither went through with the pregnancies. Unfortunately, I had him in the room at my daughter's birth. I had hopes we could be civil....he is on the B.C. He gave me $20 and said "that should cover the first month" I was left with $30k in medical bills and no help. He has seen her 5x (3x I drove to him) He was always 3 hours late and stayed 10 min. She was 1.That was the last I heard from him. He now has a little boy and the mother and child are in same position. Can I file?
He has not made any attempt to contact me and has not supported me or child other than the $20 given to me at her birth. I have been with my Fiance for 3 1/2 years. He has stepped in and is all my child knows as a "Daddy" which is what he is to her. We are getting married in March and he has asked to adopt her. Biological Father tried to get custody of his other son and case was dropped when he refused drug testing. Their are witnesses according to other mother that he is now distributing and consuming drugs. He is 29 and is dating a new 19 yr old. I feel my case is very strong against him. I just need advice as to what I need to do to get things started! We have discussed a court house wedding just to get things moving along. I am so afraid of him trying to take her from me. He is a very bad man and has a history of abuse as well.
Employment / Labor Attorney
If the question is can you file, the answer is yes. If the question is what would your likelihood of success be if you filed for sole custody, the answer is "it depends." Obviously the facts you have presented are compelling, but your paragraph is necessarily limited and I am sure that there is plenty more you could share about your situation.
One thing you should be aware of is that California generally favors parents remaining in contact with their children. If your goal is to keep him from seeing your children at all, it would be very difficult -- if not impossible. Depending on your individual facts, circumstances, and goals, an attorney could craft a litigation plan that could help ease your fears while still operating in California Family Law's global framework.
If you cannot afford an attorney, do not feel comfortable retaining an attorney, or simply wish to do this yourself, the California Superior Court has great self-help resources online, in the courthouse, and through referrals to other agencies. Visit them at http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/. You can also call their self-help number and they should point you in the right direction.
If you are looking for legal advice, you would have to contact a family law practitioner in your area as these matters are fact intensive and require much more than can be posted on a public website like Avvo.
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