Steps to Change house title after a divorce when a VA loan is involved?

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If you have a court order stating you own the house, then you simply file a notice to enforce litigant's rights to have the ex obey the order. Include a request to arrest him for contempt of court for failing to obey a court order. (Even though the court rarely does it, it certainly wakes the other person up to the fact that disobeying court orders is a serious matter). Your concern is to get title to the house. Now if the Lender will allow you to contain the mortgage after the quitclaim is filed is uncertain, and you need to know that before you have the quitclaim filed, since the Loan in your name only may need to be refinanced. It is not a bad thing to have him stay on the mortgage since he is still responsible for paying it even if he no longer owns the house, but that is not an ethical procedure.
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Mr. Sarno is licensed to practice law in NJ and NY. His response here is not legal advice and does not create an attorney/ client relationship. The response is in the form of legal education and is intended to provide general information about the matter in question. Many times the questioner may leave out details which would make the reply unsuitable. Mr. Sarno strongly advises the questioner to confer with an attorney in their own state to acquire more information.