Should I send the defendent in my suit the information I'd planned to use in court to settle with him out of court?

It's a risk to send the other side your evidence, but on the other hand, it may be a shortcut to settlement.

Is this a Small Claims suit? If so, exchanging evidence is something judges ask litgiants to do at the hearings anyway, but by then it's too late for them to refute your evidence, such as by, for example, getting their own appraisal, whereas if you show them what you've got now, they could strategize around your evidence.

You can ask them to for the amount of your claim without giving up your evidence, and see if they ask for your evidence. You can also ask them to formally to give you all their evidence, under oath that's it's true and correct, in support of their answer/denial of your allegations, as well as any insurance information they have, and then if they do the same, provide them with your evidence.

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