It would definitely make the process much easier if the bio-dad consented to the stepparent adoption. I would recommend you consult with a local and experienced adoption attorney to represent you.
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Part of the process for having your daughter adopted is a termination of the biological father's parental rights. There cannot be an adoption without the court first terminating the father's rights, and the court will require that the biological father be notified. The termination of rights will go smoothly if the father voluntarily agrees to the termination of his rights. If he does not agree, then you have the burden of proving why his rights should be terminated. Another issue you should consider - because the court will look at it closely - is why you are not married. If your boyfriend cannot commit to being a husband to you, why would the court think he would commit to being a father to your daughter?
Consult with a local adoption lawyer to help you terminate parental rights and move on with the adoption process.
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There are "notice" fathers, "consent" fathers and fathers who are neither, a local attorney can tell you which applies in your case. In any event, every court has slightly different procedures, but if you want to be SURE that the adoption isn't challenged later and you want to be sure the process goes as smoothly as possible, it would be best to notify the father and present proof to the court that you did so. IF the father fails to respond to the notification, then you'll be fine. Even if he does respond, you may still try to prove abandonment, best interests, etc. and proceed with the adoption. The only reason to do nothing is IF the father is neither a notice father nor a consent father. Good luck!
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