Agreeing with the previous post, if you have been domiciled in NJ for one year (at least one of you) then you should be able to file for divorce in New Jersey. If the two of you are in agreement on all issues and are mutually choosing to divorce, it can be a fairly simple affair.
As pointed out, NJ would seem to be the place to file in as what you should look at. If you lived in NJ for one year or more before filing you can file in NJ, and the process is generally far more simple than in NY.
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