Sounds like a family nightmare. It is a shame you can not reconcile family differences without the courts but it appears that is unlikely. You could file a police report if you have proof of stalking and it is possible to get an injunction but if she lives out of state it may be hard for a judge to grant the injunction. I would get help from a domestic lawyer to assist you.
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