Your post contains very broad generalizations and vague assumptions which make it difficult to answer. With respect to the particular questions re amending pleadings - yes, leave to amend is generally granted. As to arguments being raised at a later date, arguments are just that and not evidence. However, if the arguments are supported by declarations, you can question the declarant regarding the statements during discovery and then pin down the facts you need to support your friends case.
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