Respectfully, you need far more than "help understating the uccjea in Missouri." You are long past needing the precise advice and representation by an experienced and adept Missouri family law practitioner. It's not really much of a mystery. The Missouri judge had jurisdiction over you an the baby because you lived there and left. The Missouri judge changed the custody of your baby because you defied his/her specific order to provide custodial access. There is no reason to be confused. Before you dig your hole any deeper and end up in jail for your contempt, find a way to retain Missouri counsel.
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