We have a son involved and I would like to keep him in state rather than have her leave our child with her relatives while she works. I work from home and have plenty of support so neglect is not an issue. She would like to file in NJ despite us living here in CA at the moment, I think this is irrational but am not sure what choice I have in the matter. There is also a flight risk since she is from another country and has stated that she can "buy a passport" from her country.