My sons father wants visitation after 4 years out of the picture and I don't think its a good idea, can I prevent it?

Asked almost 2 years ago - Amherst, MA

My sons father has been out of the picture for 4 years because of his serious drug choices. He now wants visitation because he has been paying a very small amount of child support, but I don't think it is the best idea for my sons emotional well being and things are best left the way they are. I don't want my son to have to go through the back and forth of his instability. Can I stop this in any way? I have full custody and have supported almost everything for my son since the beginning. I cannot afford to re-hire the lawyer I had before. What would you recommend, or what are my chances of what I feel is best being granted in court?

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    Answered . If your earlier judgment set out custody and visitation rights ( and I assume that it did) then you can file a Modification action at Court and show that there has been a "substantial change in circumstances" that should cause there to be new restrictions on his visitation rights. The Court is unlikely to prohibit all visitation. However, you might request that there be what is called therapeutic supervised visitation, which is where the father and child engage in specialized joint counseling so that the child is emotionally ready to re-engage after a gradual and protective process. Alternatively, or in conjunction with this counseling, there can be supervised visitation outside of the counseling, so that it can be terminated any time the child shows any adverse effects of the visitation. Supervised visitation can be for a short prescribed (by the therapist) period or for an indefinite period until such time as he (or, possibly, you) think it should be changed by further court proceedings (modified). I find that some judges are reluctant to order therapeutic supervised visitation because of skepticism about its worth and the cost to the non-custodial parent. You may need to ask for a Guardian ad Litem investigation that would result in a recommendation to the Court, but it can be expensive. In MIddlesex County you can ask for a Court Clinic investigation, but it is not as extensive as a Guardian ad Litem invesitgation, but it is free.

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    Answered . I agree with my colleague, but add some additional comments. Without knowing you son's age, it is hard to say definitively what type of limited visitation might be appropriate. Technically, however, if there existing orders for visitation, those are what is technically the father is entitled to. It would be in your and your son's best interests to file a complaint for modification, together with a motion for temporary orders to suspend all visitation between father and son, grounds of father's past limited or non-existant visitation with your son and drug abuse by father, and alternatively, for only supervised visitation at a family service center, for a period of time, so father's interaction with the child is in a supervised setting where the child's safety is assured.

    I agree with my colleague's assessment that the courts can be reluctant to order therapeutic visitation, but it depends on the unique circumstances of each case, taking into account many factors beyond what you have set forth. In addition to the suggestions regarding possible appointment of a guardian ad litem, you can also consider requesting that the Court appoint attorney for your son, sometimes offered at no expense to the parents.

    There is also a general consensus that, where possible, at no risk of harm to the child, the child have a relatioship with both parents -- but again, based on the circumstances of each case.

    Best wishes to you.

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  3. Answered . If he wants visitation, let him file an action in court seeking such visitation. Then if any visitation is ordered, there will be guidelines set by the court.

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