My son, since he was born, wants to become a baseball star. I decided to sign him up for T-Ball. This is his first year and amazingly he's really good at it. I have even noticed that it has boosted his confidence level. He has told me he wants to continue on to Little League. However, those games participation is mandatory. My ex-husband has told me he will not support our son in this as it cuts into his time with him. He has refused to take him to his practices and games. I have even offered to pick our son up myself or have another family member pick up our son to take him to his games. My ex-husband told me if I do that he will call the cops. We both have custody over the kids, but because he lives in a separate town, I'm the main custodial parent. Is there anything I can do?
Family Law Attorney
These issues happen frequently and coaches tend tone very accommodating when one parent refuses to participate. I would suggest you speak with the coach and explain the situation, my guess is that accommodations will be made for the dates the child misses during Dad's time. Additionally, I am of the opinion that the Court is likely to do very little because of the age of the child. However, if the child continues to excel and shows promise of future endeavors, college scholarships for example, most can be receptive . It is about timing and I don't think it is right. When it is, you can file a Motion to address it with the Court.
Child Custody Lawyer
I agree with Ms. Roberts. It's unfortunate, but a legal custodian can certainly throw a wrench in the works by their stubbornness. The coaches can be accommodating, but more importantly, he needs the game experiences as much or more than the practices. This is going to be a tough sell with the court, however, in that they are not likely to view T-ball as a necessary part of a child's life, at least not sufficient to order Dad to do something Dad doesn't think is worthwhile. So I'd sit with an attorney who can look at all the facts, especially looking at patterns outside of baseball that indicate Dad's not looking after the child's interests. If you can demonstrate an overall pattern, you have a much better chance at getting the judge's attention.
Family Law Attorney
If your case is based in Northern Nevada, the advice my colleagues have provided is absolutely correct. There is no way the courts will put T-ball or little league over time with a parent. Your son's coaches WILL understand. And your ex is only shooting himself in the foot for being an ass, because your son is going to know that mom supports an activity he enjoys, and dad doesn't. When his friends ask where he was and why he missed a practice or game, he is only going to have his father to blame. Make very sure that you never say anything negative about your son's father in the presence of your child or where he could possibly hear you. If your son asks why dad won't let him play, simply tell him that is something he will have to ask his father because you cannot explain it. And start saving money for an attorney, because this will likely get worse, and you will probably need to address it in the court system in the future.
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