Asked 9 months ago - Spokane, WAFlag
My husband told me to pack my clothes and leave because he didn't want to be with me anymore.I refused to leave for 22 hours but due to his unkind words I finally conceded and started packing my clothes. During this time he changed the lock on the front door of our house. He then told me I had to leave because he was going back to work. He did not give me a key to the house and I had to hand over the remote to the garage because he had changed the code to it.
He is asserting what control he can. Sometimes people have their own ideas regading what is appropriate. You are both entitled to use and enter the home unless there are court orders prohibiting this. Whether you exercise the option of breaking in and taking what you want or filing for divorce/legal separation is up to you. Typically, if a partner is acting this way, it is best to ask the ourt for help. Although you can break in and take whatever you want, this often escalates the problems and may expose you to danger, i.e. booby traps or violence. You may call the police and ask for a civil standby so you can get your personal belongings.
If you file for divorce or legal separation in Spokane County, the court issues an automatic temporary order preventing both parties from selling or disposing of assets, harassing or disturbing the peace of either party or cancelling insurance. If you want possession of items, to stay in the home (with him gone), payment of bills or spousal suport, you would file and also file a motion for temporary orders asking for this relief. It can be heard with about 14 days notice.
You can get forms and instructions at the court's website below, help from an attorney or help from the Family Law Court Facilitator (509-477-7612) available in most counties. This person is not an attorney, but can answer questions and help you navigate the system.
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