You will need to see a probate lawyer. This isn't a debt collection issue, except for the medical debts made while you were married. In most states, you will be responsible for paying his medical bills if they were made while married. You can't afford not to hire an attorney! Hope this perspective helps!
I agree that you should contact a probate lawyer. If your husband died without a will his estate will pass under the state's intestate succession laws, but different rules apply for different situations.
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I agree with my colleagues. I think that you DO need a lawyer. It may not be as expensive as you believe. At the very least, you should take advantage of a free consultation to determine what you need to do. It is likely that you now own the assets, along with your children, based on the facts you set forth. You may have issues requiring conservatorship, if any of the kids are minors. This can get complicated fairly quickly and you have potential personal liability. It is better to pay SOME money NOW, that to pay a LOT of money, LATER.
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