He deals with marijuana and says that if I call the police on him all of us will go to jail. He is violent againt me and my step daughter and step son. I'm afriad he will turn violent on our 18 month out. He says that when I scream when hes punching me that I'm trying to call the cops to have all of us arrested. He said he would make sure I go to jail and forces me to help him grow and trim so if he gets in trouble so do I. He has three other kids abroad who are in a worse situation with their abusive mother and financially dependent on us so I dont want him arrested and I dont want to be arrested, but I want to leave and have sole custody of my 18 month old and if I can have my two step kids as well. they dont want to stay with him but wont testify against him because of their siblings
There is no question here.
I will tell you that I seriously doubt that you would go to jail for reporting the activities. Cops need a witness. You could be it.
Keep in mind that marijuana grows, even in houses, are regularly being discovered. There are even people who buy the weed to help the cops find them. IF you are discovered in this manner, you could be arrested and the kids are put in foster care. If the grow is big enough, it might be a federal case and a lot of time.
You are running a lot of risk.
You might seriously consider picking up the pnhone and calling the sheriff and inviting him over to see your husband's marijuana grow.
You might also see an attorney to help you do this. S/he calls the cops and makes the arrangements.
I can assure you that this is going to end. It could end somewhat favorably to you, or it could bring you hell. You must, not should, must remove yourself and your children, including your step-children, from that situation IMMEDIATELY! There are battered women shelters in abundance, and you can seek funding to get your life started without that beast via Victims of Crime funding, among other available resources that most shelters will be able to help you to locate. If you fail to remove those kids and yourself from the domestic violence to which YOU, not just the beast, are exposing them, not to mention the highly dangerous drug selling environment, you risk losing all of them forever. I assure you that the Child Protective Agency will find out sooner or later, probably sooner, and show up at the police raid to take your kids away after the police raid your home and take you and the beast away to jail. Your chances of having the opportunity to reunify with your own child will be greatly hampered by your time spent in jail fighting the charges against you, while your child will be bonding with some unknown foster parents who wish to adopt him or her. As for your step-kids, your chances or small to nil of reunifying. Those kids would be involved in a separate case with their biological, presumed mother. If you remove yourself and all of the kids right now, you just might have a chance to keep yourself out of jail and the kids out of foster care. Fail to do so and all bets are off, and I bet against you. Get strong. You have no choice.
Do the right thing: Call the police and report the pot operation. I do not think you would be arrested. If father is abusing the child, you could be in trouble with CPS if you don't report the abuse. I understand you may not have income; in that case you may need to to stay at a woman's shelter. Regarding the step children, if there is a existing mother she may have superior rights to your stepchildren.
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I think you should call the police and report him. He needs to be arrested. When you do however, you should not have the children around, you should probably not be home either, and you should be absolutely sure that you are completely clean and sober at the time. If the police suspect you of being under the influence at the time they are there, they are likely to arrest you as well. It would probably be a good idea to talk to a criminal law attorney before you make the call, follow his advice, but maybe have him call for you. I said it before, but he needs to be arrested,you need to protect yourself and your children.
You want everything; and you want nothing. All of the same time. You need to decide what you want to do.
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