I already have an order from the courts 50/50 no support everything is even,except i am the primary on the location of the school. I was in the Army and was divorced a couple years ago from her. Instead of staying in Kentucky with her kids she chose to leave and come back to CA.Leaving our two daughters in my sole care.Upon mu honorable discharge and return to CA we agreed on 50/50 custody we switch every week. After living here for a year now she wants to take me back to court asking for 80/20 and child support. She lives about 35 miles from where our kids go to school,after she was fully aware what school the kids were going to, she still moved that far away.Now after driving back and forth on her weeks she is trying to change it after agreeing to it.Do I have a chance of losing my girls
I live in San Mateo county (where the kids go to school) and she lives in Santa Clara county. The case is being held in Santa Clara county.She also is saying that my oldest daughter does not want to see me when it is my week, she does cry when I pick her up but she tells me its because she is worried about her mom and that she never does anything with her. After about 10 minutes of being in the car she is fine. Then she also cries a little bit when it s bed time only when I tell her to turn off the TV, but if she can watch TV she's fine. Recently my ex-wife got her some counseling app. so she can talk with someone about her issues and why she cries. I make it a point to be at every event my kids are a part of and since my girls have started baseball I have not missed a practice game nothing. My ex wife on the other hand has missed a couple practice and on 3 occasions now have refused to even bring the girls to their games.
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The courts like to do what is in the best interest of the children. However once a custody order is in place generally courts do not like to change them unless there has been a change in circumstances of the case. It does not sound like that is the case based on the facts that you have supplied. Based on age the court may listen to want the children want if they were asking for a change (if it was too hard on them going back and forth each week etc). I would definitely continue to put your daughter in counseling so she can talk out whatever issues that you have.
Do you know why your wife wants to change things now? Is it just the school - or maybe she is having a hard time with money and is just trying to get child support. You may be able to work this out in mediation.
Either way custody issues are serious and I always suggest going through an attorney if you dont think you and your ex can settle this easily in mediation. Our advice on Avvo is general but an attorney you meet with can get more details about your particular facts.
If you cannot afford an attorney there is Bay Area Legal Aid in your area. If you do not qualify for them you can contact my office, we charge on a sliding scale based on income and family size.
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