Do I need to fill out a form or do I need to include a copy of the Consent Judgment or do I include a letter with the QDRO asking the court to sign it?
Personal Injury Lawyer
Send it to the court, with a copy to the opposing party ... even if you and ex spouse did it together you must formally "serve" a copy on him or his attorney by first class mail, and in your cover letter ask the court to approve it.
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Divorce / Separation Lawyer
Both you and your ex should sign the QDRO and have it entered by the judge. After it has been entered with the court, serve a copy of the QDRO on the Plan Administrator. The Plan Administrator will notify the parties (and counsel, if any) if the the QDRO is qualified.