You can ask the judge to order her to pay your attorney fees for wasting your time and the court's time on frivolous petitions that are only harassment. I am assuming in this that the divorce settlement contained an express waiver of spousal support rather than just being silent on that issue. If she has to pay YOUR attorney fees, the harassment might stop.
Your marriage under the law is considered a long-term marriage; so, spousal support may always be an issue unless she remarries, waives support, etc. It is acceptable to bring the issue before the court when there is a change in circumstances; however, when a party addresses issues, doesn't get the ruling they want and files a new motion, they expose themselves to paying your attorney fees as already indicated. When you file your response, I recommend you ask for attorney fees. Request attorney fees for the harassment as part of your argument but the general rule is you must prevail on the motion to be entitled to attorney fees. The judge has discretion to grant your request. Spousal support looks at her ability to be self-supporting, and a list of other factors which can be used to set it as low as 0.00. Finally, no, you cannot sue her for the acts you describe. You can if she harasses you over the phone, etc.
PS- Unless you had a child after divorce, that support should have ended when the kids reach 18... and you've been divorced for 17 years?
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