He is threatening to sue me for his expenses to fight the court order. He has drug our adult children into the fight. Can he get the back support modified? He moved alot and didn't pay support for long periods of time and it has caught up with him.
If he goes into court on unpaid child support, and starts complaining he might find himself incarcerated.
Take out a restraining order on him; your adult children can do the same. Ignore him, it is time that he
faced the music and believe me, he has little chance of winning any modification award. What might happen is that a lawyer (if he gets a sensible one) might try to negotiate a settlement, which you have to approve. As to his fee shifting request to have you pay his legal fees, that is only done when a person has to go to court to get someone to obey an order, it is never done when someone is asking for permission to disobey an order. He also might find himself unable to hire counsel, because honest attorneys see right away what a losing proposition this is. Of course, there is always some legal eagle who will take his money, go into court and still hit a brick wall.
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