Our parenting is week on, week off. Drop off by the parent sending at 6pm on Sunday. I asked him to have our son at my house on Sunday and he replied he would let the State decide, that our son is 14 and can decide where he wants to live.
Social Security Lawyers
Memo to ex husband: your son does not have the legal authority to decide whether he will live, full and voluntary compliance with existing court order is expected until changed, and court orders are enforceable through the contempt powers of the court which can expose you to jail time; and, really, is this your idea of a memorable Christmas for your son?
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Neither your son nor your ex-husband get to decide. If you have a custody judgment that says it is your time to have your son, take the judgment to an attorney. He/she will contact your ex or his attorney to straighten this out before too much time passes. Good luck.
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Your ex is wrong. Talk to an experienced family law attorney about filing a Motion for Contempt and Enforcement of the Judgment. Best of luck to you.
The only caveat would be that some Judges are hesitant to force older teens to comply w parenting time plans. You generally see this after a child is 16 years old. The child "votes w his/her feet" regarding where they want to be at. But your child is too young for such a concern.