my wife and i want a divorce ,she wants me to move now. would i loose everything including my 2 kids? she cant support herself so i will .and she wants to 50/50 custody ,she has 1 more semester of collage left ,when she finishes she said she would walk away from the house is there any thing i can do to make sure that happens if i leave? i cant afford a lawyer now , but soon.and if i support her and the courts see that will keep making me pay that amount?my net pay is about 450.00 and i will have about 100.00 $ of that its only possible because i can live with family for a while. thanks jerry h. michigan resident
Estate Planning Attorney
Ouch. You don't lose custody or parental rights just by moving out. Some times that is actually in the best interests of your children. You can lose your sanity, lose some points on your credit score after the bills start piling up because it is more expensive for you two to live apart, lose some personal belongings.
With a net pay of $450 and wanting to support her I recommend ditching the attorney idea. WHen I got divorced it was not amiable, I was makign $10 / hr fighting for rights to see my kids and paying $150 / hr to an attorney. Now you can't find a decent one that inexpensive. Keep your money. If the two of you are agreeing on everything then find out how to handle the divorce without attornies.
Come up with a reasonable parenting plan that works for your kids. I will never regret my decision to stay in my kids' lives. It was tough (since, unlike you, we didn't agree on that part). If you want to be a dad to your kids then no one can stop you. Do what you can, lead by example, forgive or let go of the rest. You may find that in the lond run you haven't lost anything.