We cannot help you on here. You need to consult with an attorney in person. It is impossible to determine which state has jurisdiction for what purposes. The facts you have presented are incomplete and very confusing.
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It's not clear from the question just how "emergency jurisdiction was taken" in this case. You need to consult with an attorney - preferably one who can practice in both Oregon and Washington - to sort this out. Being unrepresented in a divorce case, especially one with multi-state jurisdictional problems and domestic violence issues, is incredibly risky. It's like performing surgery on yourself, without any medical training or tools - legal, but you're likely to hurt yourself. I'm afraid this board can't be an adequate substitute for that.
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As others have indicated, the language of your question makes it hard to understand exactly what happened. You should show the papers you have to an attorney in the county in which the case is being heard.
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