My son was phyiscallly and emotionally abused by his father. My son is tormented with his memories and thoughts of what is father did to him so much that my son has such hatred toward himself. My son beats on himself, punching and hitting himself, calling himself names and screaming that he is a bad boy when my son clearly did nothing wrong. My son is only 6 years old! He has stated over and over again that he does not want to see his father and will throw violent fits on the very thought of going to the visitations , whether it is supervise visites or not my son clearly does not want to go. D.S.S did investegate this and found that my son's father was indeed abusing and negecting my son. There has to be something to help my son because for some reason the court is still pushing visitation
Child Abuse Lawyer
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Because DSS is only required to have "reasonable cause to believe" that abuse happened for it to "support" an allegation but a judge needs to have "clear and convincing evidence" that a parent is unfit and that it would be in the child's best interests before s/he can terminate parental rights might explain the discrepancy of the two responses. If you have proof of the abuse and of visitation with his father being harmful to your son, you might be able to get a judge to terminate his father's parental rights but courts are very reluctant to terminate the rights of a non-custodial parent even in the situation you describe.
You should consult with a Massachusetts lawyer who concentrates in children's and family law.
Divorce / Separation Lawyer
It sounds as though your son could really benefit from therapy. Courts are hesistant without clear proof that visitation is harmful to a child to shut that parent out of the child's life. As mentioned in the previous answer, the standard of proof is different with DCF and the Probate Court.
In addition to therapy (which may help with the proof and help your son deal with what has happened in his life), you really should consult with a lawyer about what additional steps need to be taken if what you want is for the father to not have visits.
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Education Law Attorney
I do not have the entire picture so it is impossible to provide specific advice for your situation. There are laws to protect victimized children from seeing the abusive parent, but these generally come into play after the abuse has been established and proven in court. I agree with my sister attorney that therapy for your son would be helpful to him. In additon, the therapist's testimony before a judge could influence a judge to rule that it is not in the best interests of your son to visit with his father. You might also consider "pushing" DCF a little on this issue and have them take a stronger stand to protect your son. Judges in Probate Court do take into consideration the views of DCF.