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Divorce / Separation Lawyer
NC has only two grounds for an absolute divorce:
(1) No Fault - one year waiting period
(2) Mental Insanity - three year waiting period and you are responsible for their support for the rest of their life (very bad option)
If you are thinking of a Divorce from Bed & Board (which is a judicial separation but not a divorce), then fault can be a factor and there is no statute of limitations. However, if you condoned the activity (reconciled and forgave it), that could be a bar to the adultery as a fault basis for divorce from bed and board.
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