We thought that a child had to be twelve to decide which parent to live with but recently we had a friend going through the same thing as us and said that it depends on the maturity of the child so we were wondering which was true
There is no magic age in KY where a child gets to decide. A child has a voice in the matter, but not the actual choice. As to the weight of the child's voice--that is very case specific and something only the judge can decide. Ex: If child is wanting to go live with one parent b/c there are less rules to follow, a judge may not put too much weight on that. A judge must decide (generally speaking when discussing timesharing/parenting time) what is in the child's best interest and the child's wishes are only 1 factor to be considered. If this is an issue, you need to consult with an experienced family law attorney.
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