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Is it illegal for a 13 year old girl to date an 18 year old guy?

Burlington, VT |

They aren't planning on doing any "heavy petting" or sexual contact. Could he go to jail for the dating thing is what I am wondering.

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  1. It is not illegal per se but pretty stupid-it can and probably will lead to all sorts of legal problems.


  2. Any 18 year old who is dating a 13 year old is not worth dating.

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  3. An 18 year old dating a 13 year old? Really - is that legal in Vermont? What is the age of consent in Vermont anyway? In California, it's 18, but in most places it's still called "robbing the cradle". And if a 18 years commits any sexual with a 13 year old, its called child molestation and lifetime sex registration. But exactly what do a 13 year old and an 18 year old have in common anyway? And where is that 13 year old's parents?

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  4. It will be as soon as the relationship goes a little too far. This is a bad idea that the parents of both individuals should be prohibiting .

    This child cannot legally consent to any kind of physical touching, nor can the parents of the child consent on her behalf. Many lives have been destroyed because of these types of situations which end up with the adult being charged with sexually abusing a child. It leads to convictions of child molestation, lewd and lascivious conduct with a child, aggravated sexual battery of a child etc.. All of these charges involve lengthy prison terms, felony records and lifetime registration on sex offender registry's, including notifying the State where you live. Failure to keep the State apprised of your living arrangement and address results in additional charges, sometimes felonies. It is also very difficult for sex offenders to find gainful employment. Sex offenders are posted on Government run Internet websites, complete with photos and town addresses. When you move, you may be required to notify neighbors of your sex offender status. Any 18/13 relationship is a bad idea on all counts.

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