my ex and i were never married, and have a 3 year old together. he has seen her twice for maybe a total of 20 hours combined. he has not seen her i a year. he does send child support every month and we are in the process of getting a child support order done. she does not know him and calls my now husband daddy, who is in the navy and is here and gone enough as it is, she doesnt need anyone else in and out of her life. she also has two brothers, one that lives with his mother and one that lives with her full time.
Civil Rights Attorney
Consider a step parent adoption , if bio dad wil not sign his rights away then you will have to terminate his parental rights based on abodonment. So the adoption will be a two step process.
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Child Custody Lawyer
The first step would be to ask the father if he would give up his rights so your husband could do a step-parent adoption. Use the fact that he (your ex) would no longer have to pay child support.
If that does not work than you would need to petition to terminate the rights of the father.
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Domestic Violence Lawyer
I agree with the Step Parent Adoption suggested by previous counsel in California after a year of no contact you can file for severance of Parental Rights based on Abandonment within the Step Parent Adoption proceeding. If of course he does file a request for custodial rights and visitation you will have a more difficult time preventing him from exercising some type of visitation,but if he has had little contact as you say any court would take baby steps with custody and visitation orders