I'm licensed in both Oregon and Washington and there is a huge difference in how the states handle relocation cases. Your statement of Washington law is correct and it is difficult to be successful in challenging a relocation. The focus needs to be on what is best for the child which also is related to the reason for the move.
If this were an Oregon case, there are no specific statutes (like there are in Washington) that deal with relocation. We have a notice requirement if one parent is moving more than 60 miles away, but the burden of trying to stop a relocation is on the non-custodial parent (another concept that is different than WA law). Generally speaking, the caselaw in Oregon is that the moving parent must show that the minor child will be "better served" by the relocation. Generally, this is difficult to show if there is an active dad who the child is very bonded to (sometimes we have to hire an expert to prove this). I have successfully litigated both sides of the argument in the past and would be happy to chat with you more if you are interested.
As an aside, this will only become an Oregon case if you both move out of Washington. If one of you continues to reside in Washington (e.g. one of you ends up living in Vancouver, as opposed to Portland), then Washington still has subject matter jurisdiction over these issues and any further relocations would be examined under WA law, not OR.
The most important document is the Custody Judgment or Divorce Judgment. The language in it should have a 60-mile restriction on moving without the other parent's permission. Give me a call and I would be happy to discuss this with you. 503-650-9662 Diane
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What court originally decided custody? If this was done in an Oregon Court, the Oregon Court still has jurisdiction and a motion may need to be filed to prevent her from moving with the children. Oregon will not apply Washington Law.
However Oregon does not enforce joint custody - it will convert the custody to one parent having custody if a joint custody situation no longer will work on a voluntary basis between the parents.
The Oregon Court may or may not prevent the children from being moved. There is no single rule on this. Each ease is reviewed by the court in a subjective fashion.
The mother always has the right to move, but not the right to take the children. It is very hard to predict when the Oregon Courts will allow children to move and when the Oregon Courts won't. It is always best if the parents work out some type of agreement.
Sometimes a move is necessary so a parent can take a job. When parents live a distance apart there are other ways to share the parenting time. Many parents trade off summers and the school year. The children are in one place for school and travel to spend the summer with the other parent. Seattle, while a long drive, is still within driving distance so it would allow you to attend important events for the children and to bring them to Portland for holidays and weekends. One possibility is to agree with mom to meet halfway to share the driving. So consider all the possible ways to deal with this new situation. Talk to and attorney and get something filed if you want to stop the move. http://www.portlandlegalservices.com
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