There is no hard time limit. Probates take a minimum of 4 months, and 4 months is extremely rare. For most estates 6 to 9 months is common if everything goes smoothly, there are no challenges, and if things like appraisals are not delayed.
For a $500,000 estate, there could be other delays. However, an executor cannot use the property of the decedent for his/her own use. Thus, permitting unwarranted use of the condo is not necessarily legal. The executor might allow family members to use the condo as they have done in the past, but must deal with the estate in a timely manner, and - again - must use the property only for the benefit of the decedent's estate.
Careful not to cause this to explode into a fued - unless you don't care. An attorney can help you with this situation, as attorneys sometimes garner a bit more authority and won't be bullied (if they are good). If the size of your potential inheritance is worth a few thousand dollars - I highly advise this route.
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A probate where real estate has to be marketed will almost never be done in less than 6 months, and because of the horrible condo market it could take far longer. If you feel the estate is being handled improperly, you get a lawyer (and it sounds like you arer long overdue to have done that).
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I agree with Attorney Ashman. You are LONG overdue retaining your own lawyer. You are in over you head on this and need help dealing with this, while there is still something left.
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