Your post is extremely hard to follow, so I can only speak in the general and you can see if what you did meets the definition: Slander is spoken Defamation (libel is written defamation). Defamation is a false (truth is an absolute defense) statement of fact (opinions name calling, insults and slurs are protected speech), disseminated/published to a third party (so the person accused of slander must have made the comment to someone other than the person being defamed). The aggrieved must show the court that he/she suffered damages as a result of the loss of reputation.
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