And should we include my husband's mother in household member if she doesn't live with us?
Consult an attorney regarding filing the affidavit of support. It involves too much detail to be discussed based on the facts you provided.
3. Obtain assistance from an immigration attorney
IF she does not live with you, no need to include her as a household member. She needs to file I864
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