My kids are ages 10, 8, and 6. My 10 year old has a mild form of autism. Over the weekend, they said their dad's girlfriend of 7 months "yelled and yelled" and they "felt scared." She told my 8 y.o. that he is stupid and he needs to shut his "big fat mouth." She has also disciplined my child with autism by smacking his hand. My kids say they "don't feel safe" going with their dad anymore because they are scared of his girlfriend and "Dad doesn't care, he doesn't do anything, he says it's [the girlfriend's] job, not his." Do I have to force them to go anyway? It is quite disturbing to send my children off into an environment that is perceived as unsafe or threatening to them.