You are not going to like this but you ARE at fault. (That is not to say that the other unnamed driver didn't cause the accident) You have a responsibility to stay far enough behind the car in front of you that you can come to a stop without hitting her if she stops dead in her tracks. A safe way to measure this time is to count 2 Mississippi (assuming you are going no more than 55mph in a regular size car). If you are going faster or are in a bigger vehicle (or both) you have to add a couple Mississippi to the count to be sure you can stop.
As for the agreement you have with the other driver, neither she nor you are experts in traffic safety and rules, her opinion will carry no weight.
Given the amount of damage being claimed, it might be a good idea to see an attorney who handles Personal Injury Defense or Insurance Defense. You can find quite a few right here on Avvo.
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I agree with Mr. Corlelluori -- you will most likely be found responsible for the collision due to failure to mainatain safe distance from the other vehicle. My only admonishion is to report the loss to yuor insurance carrier and have them defend and, if they so decide, indemnify you in this matter.
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If you haven't already you need to report the accident to your car insurer. Most states have rules of the road that apply in these situations. Generally, you should maintain a safe distance behind the car you are following to allow you to avoid a collision. Also, in many states there is an car accident investigation privilege which makes the police report itself, as well as any statements made to the police during their accident investigation, inadmissible in court. The statements made between the drivers, rather than to the police, may be admissible. Bottom line, you should let your insurance company sort this out. Good luck to you.
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I cannot necessarily agree with all the responses. In Alabama, we have what is called "contributory negligence", and therefore, if the car in front of you was one percent (1%) at fault, she cannot recover. Another question I have is who is attempting to collect from you? Her insurance carrier? I would write them and let them know that she was not paying proper attention to the car which pulled out.
Additionally, were there any injuries? If so, you have an uninsured motorist claim. A phantom vehicle is considered an uninsured motorist in Alabama.
I hope this helps.
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