Different states do things in different ways, but generally a termination only occurs as part of an adoption or Dependency Neglect proceeding. It is considered an extreme measure and most jurisdictions do not terminate without very good cause.
If your child were in a dependency neglect proceeding the rights could be terminated on the grounds of abandonment, I suppose if you were to seek termination that is the most appropriate grounds. Be advised, if rights are terminated your son would lose all rights to future child support and inheritance if his dad died without a will.
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It is almost impossible to involuntarily terminate someone's parental rights, unless there is someone who you are involved with now who is willing to adopt the children. Even then, it is extremely hard if he objects. I am a former judge who presided over termination and adoption cases. Both the parent having rights terminated and the adopting parent need to go through extensive counseling about the fact that it terminates the obligation of child support, the right to inherit, the right for visitations, etc. I would suggest paying for a discounted initial consultation with one of us here on Avvo for some further direction.
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Termination of parental rights ends ongoing support obligations, but does not get rid of the arrears that are currently owed. You will not be able to terminate his parental rights at this time. You would need to show that he has not provided emotional or financial support for the child for more than a year. Even then, many judges will not terminate parental rights and responsibilities unless there is another parent willing to step in and adopt the child.
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