so that she is 1st and now I am 2nd and without my knowledge? I was never notified of this. my mom had a sum of money for a family business that my parents sold (before they passed) that is deposited into an account every month, only I had access to it. When there was no deposit, i called the company that process the payment, they informed me that i was not the trustee on record and they couldn't talk to me. I want to know is it legally possible?That is NOT what our mom wanted. she chose me to take care of her estate and just so you know also my other sister told me that since i had just lost my son (just 5 months after my mom dying) she and my sister had got a lawyer because they decided i was not right in the head and they didn't want me in charge of my moms estate. what can i do?