I've been married for 21yrs separated for 1yr. I receive child support but no alimony.

My ex controlled all the monies in the marriage. I haven't worked for over 5yrs. I was a homemaker.My ex is a lawyer and ask me to wait to get a lawyer because he had recently split with his partner and needed time to recop business. I did out of respect and in return I was served divorce papers from an ex girfriend of his who he hired who has been sharing my personal business with her friends.What can I do about her and what type of alimony am I entitled to receive?