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Asked about 1 year ago - Saint Cloud, MN
FlagHe is constantly in contempt of court. I never know if he is bringing her home. He never brings her home on time, he doesnt pay support, he owes over $12,500 and has no desire to work and pay. He hunts still, drives still, constantly breaking the law by not following court orders. But yet I will get thrown in jail if I deny him his visits. How is this even fair or right. I am tired, I am at my whits end where i am s close to snapping! I can not take this anymore. This whole hing about having both parents in the life will benefit the child is bull. Its the opposite in this case. He is manipulating her, telling her things, putting cult like thinking ino her head and simply not supporting her in any way shape or form. His wife is caring for her, buying her what she needs.. HELP
Your situation is quite frustrating, and I see this a lot. The bottom line, however, is that there isn't much you can do. From your description, you've clearly been through the legal system on numerous occasions. You mention court orders being issued. Clearly, your ex doesn't see the need to comply with the judge's orders. Until a judge is willing to get tough with your ex, he will continue to flout the law. And, until a judge really puts a dent into his life (i.e., jail, suspended licenses, etc.), your ex will simply keep on doing what he has been doing. Now, one thing I can say is this - you aren't "going to jail" if you deny parenting time to him. The cops aren't going to do anything about it except tell him to go to court. While, obviously, I cannot advise you to break the court's orders, it may well be a case where you need to cut him off and see what he does about it. You will need to, however, PROVE all the allegations you've made in your post if you hope to get the judge to see your side of it. Good luck!
There are a lot of different strategies for you to pursue here. You could do a motion to change parenting time. You could do a child support contempt motion. You could even look into an adoption proceeding.
You should contact an attorney to discuss the best course of action for you. None of these are things you should necessarily do on your own. I have included some more information about each of these options in the links below.
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