Have your attorney contact his attorney and set up a meeting with the four of you to discuss division of assets and debts.
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In some jurisdictions, four way conferences are required in which the husband, wife and attorneys sit down and try to work through the issues. Sometimes it leads to a settlement. Other times, it simply leads to a clear list for the judge of what the disputed issues are in the case. In other jurisdictions, mediation is required. In my opinion, based on experience, I find mediation a better alternative because there is a third, hopefully objective, party present to give a reality check. Mediation costs money, but if it can lead to a settlement then it will buy you what you want, which is a resolution of the mess sooner rather than later. It is cheaper than a trial.
Division of marital debts and assets is subject to a number of factors set out in the divorce statutes. Each state has its own. No one asset can be subjected to analysis in isolation without viewing all of the assets that both of you own, and without understanding the full context of the marriage including but not limited to your stations in life, the lifestyles to which you are accustomed, your educational and employment histories, your current abilities to support yourselves, and many other circumstances.
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