Re-post in the North Carolina section here on Avvo for more insight. If you plan on bringing an action in New York, it should be brought in the state in which the child resides.
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It's always better to seek support where the "pockets" are, however, if she is bringing you to Court here, you should file for an upward modification and request her cooperation for child care so both cases are heard together.