I have been married 20years, separated for 1. I have been a homemaker for most of my marriage. Am I intitaled to alimony.

My ex is a lawyer and told me I am not intilted to alimony because he says we have debt and that he pays for our childrens private schools, our insurance, ect. All bank accounts are controlled by him and are only in his name. He has controlled every aspect of the bank accounts since 1993. I struggle to meet my monthly bills where I reside with our children 50% of the time. What are my opitions?