I have been charged as the father of a child that I know is not mine. I can't afford a lawyer due to the high cost they are taking out of my check and when I go to court they just side with the mother of the child and won't listen to me. I know she is lying - I haven't had sex with her in over 20 years and she lived with another man for at least the last 10 years but I don't know his name. what can i do?