This POA resulted in my being put in a retirement home where I am miserable and I would like to move with my sister who is willing to share with me.
I suggest you consult an attorney who can review the POA and facts with you. The terms "irrevocable" and "durable" are inconsistent. I suspect that, despite your understanding, you have not given your daughter an irrevocable durable power of attorney.
In any event, POAs do not generally prevent a principal from acting on its own behalf. And, in the case of a durable power, the irrevocable nature is probably limited by the terms of the POA.
So long as you are able, you probably can take the action you have in mind without the consent of your daughter. However, in the event you and your daughter cannot work this out between you, and third parties are unwilling to allow you to act on your own behalf, a court can terminate an irrevocable POA. Good luck.
Michael R. Daymude, Attorney at Law
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Irrevocable powers of attorney create a bond between the principal and agent that is highly customized. Usually a specified event must occur that is outlined in the document that allows for revocation of the agent and/or the agreement. If not, then both the principal and agent must agree to the revocation.
I would also recommend that you have the document reviewed by an attorney to determine if it is truly an irrevocable power of attorney. If it is determined that it is revocable, then you can change the agent and/or revoke the agreement at your discretion.