You can proceed with or without your spouse's agreement to the divorce. However, you mention a number of extremely complicated issues. Hire an attorney. You are in over your head.
you can move forward with the divorce. However, as the divorce is in Cook County and you have a number of issues it could take 2 years or more. You need to consult and hire an attorney.
It is obvious you do not have an attorney who can guide you through the minefileld of the Domestic Relation Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.
Contesting a divorce means that the person in the black robe makes the decisions. How many decisions the Judge has to make is up to you and your husband.
I have rarely seen anyone voluntarily agree to pay maintenance.
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