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I did IVF with a knwn dnr in ny. Coparent agrmt gives his visitation. He's taking over as if he's the authority. What to do?

Flushing, NY |

Known donor, after children were born he was around. I assumed because he could prove paternity he had rights. I didn't know I could separate my life cause he was the father. Originally I asked for his sperm he said ok he gave. I got babies came and here he is. He started taking over. I got order of protection cause he was telling me I could leave or go anywhere with children or he would sue me for custody. He acts as he's the authority. We got a co parenting agreement he gets visitation. He keeps threatening and making accusations I'm unfit he had them in visit and got a protection order in me over false accusations. Go to court in 2 weeks since parenting agreement was established 4 yrs ago we only exchange children. He always threatens to take custody. What can I do?

Attorney Answers 3


  1. If you feel physically threatened at any point then call the police. If you wish to engage him in a custody battle then seek the guidance of a local attorney.


  2. As there is a co-parenting agreement he has the right to request custody in court. You need the aid of an attorney. The method of conception in this case is immaterial.

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  3. There's not much you can do about his threats. I would, on the other hand, keep a careful paper-trail with him and document via letters/e-mails to him all important conversations & exchanges. Schedule a consult with a Child Custody lawyer in your area.

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