Asked 9 months ago - Pasadena, CAFlag
my ex girlfriend left TRO against me on my apt. doorstep, on 08/03/12, it was filled with lies, and stated i threatend to shoot her, she also stated i am bi-polar, which im not, and requested 52 week counceling? This stems from the fact she owes me money she borrowed , we stopped seeing each other 1 month ago. I need your help, fast, can she get away with lies ?
First of all you have to be served correctly, dropping off on your door step is not proper. That's the first thing I would tell the judge. As has been said judges have seen it all. Tell your side calmly.
Contact a local attorney to assist you if you feel you can't do it on your own.
Judges are not stupid. They see breakup revenge TROS filed a lot. Be calm and be truthful. I don't think you need at attorney. As far as "get away with lies"-- yes, in litigation the parties are immune from libel. But as you don't live with her, on these facts, she will not be believed--the exaggerations and irrelevant facts are a tell. (Why does she care if you are bipolar if you are not married? NOT RELEVANT. Not her business.)
I really will be surprised if her request even for a permanent order is granted. Again --SHE IS NOT THE FIRST FIBBER THE JUDGE HAS HAD TO LISTEN TO.
I must respectfully disagree with the one response to your question which suggested that you don't need to speak to an attorney about this. Your ex has accused you of committing a crime, and what you say in court, in response to this request for a restraining order, can be used against you in a criminal proceeding. ("You have the right to remain silent....") A DVPA permanent restraining order, if granted, can have LONG-TERM SERIOUS consequences in your life. You should contact, and speak to, an EXPERIENCED family law attorney, IMMEDIATELY.
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