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How to not have my alimony terminated with cohabitation?

Murrieta, CA |

I'm about to go to court to finalize my divorce and determine my alimony & arrears. 5 years ago the court ordered a temporary spousal support order but my ex never paid it (5 years owed in arrearage).

My boyfriend has been living with me for the past 2 years. My "cohabitant" does not contribute to my household financially and does not affect my need for spousal support. He is unemployed and his unemployment benefits have expired. There is no financial contribution from my "cohabitant" that could be used against me, by saying that I can now maintain the same standard of living as during marriage without the supporting spouse's help.

How should I defend my spousal support further & is it a good leg to stand on stating that he's unemployed? Maybe the ex won't know to bring it up!

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I recently wrote a blog post about spousal support and cohabitation (if you google "holly Moore attorney" my blog will probably come up and you can check it out). The gist is that cohabitation is only a "presumption" to modify and/or terminate support, it's not automatic. So you can defeat the presumption basically by proving that your financial need for support has not changed since when the support was originally ordered.

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Never assume the other side will ignore a potential fact that would help their case. You need legal assistance on this and to collect the arrearages.

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