Father filed for custody & visitation modification.I don't want the judge think that I am angry about father not paying child support & owes a lot in arrears, so the judge would think that this affects father's visitation rights, because it doesn't and I can prove it. It was the father who didn't excercise his visitation rights and not only that, but by his conduct made himself even more apart from our child, which in the end resulted in a restraining order against him, where both our child and I are protected parties. I was taking the child to counselling, because of the negative impact. Still I need the judge to know the facts about my ex owing me money. I want to file Notice of Delinquency also, because my ex is not paying child support over 9 months. How do I include it in my response?