My daughters sperm donor hasn't had contact for one year.
He has never paid child support. He told me that if I filled for it he would keep quiting his job so they wouldn't take it out of his pay check. He doesn't provide health insurance for her, I do. Also a sheriffs department told me for the safety of the family it would better to move out of the area and not let him any kind of contact with her what so ever. If he really wanted to try to contact her he could, but he doesn't even try. My husband and I have already talked about it and he would love to adopt her if given the chance. He has always helped pay for her since the day we started dating.
In most states parents do not lose their rights without a court order, and if the court decides that the alienation from the father was due to parental alienation syndrome, the court might assign custody to the other parent.
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It is very difficult to terminate a parent's rights, especially if they are providing financial support for the child. You cannot make a parent visit but you can ask a Judge to order the parent to pay child support and provide health insurance for the child.
If he has NO contact and you marry a man willing to adopt the child, the Judge might allow the step-father to step into the shoes of being daddy. Of course, the father's rights would have to be terminated.